Part of why we say "solidarity not charity" is because the way charity is typically presented gives moral superiority to the givers - and often, moral inferiority to the receivers (or sometimes "takers," if they decide to be particularly transparent about it)
Truisms like "it is better to give than to receive" implicitly contain "it is wrong to receive help." It's wrong to ask for the support you need, to want it, even to accept it when offered. Panhandling, for instance, is often portrayed not just as shameful, but immoral - even greedy
Solidarity, and especially mutual aid, are meant to reject that dichotomy. Everyone at Food Not Bombs eats together, volunteers and otherwise, and talks to each other. Our Free Store puts "it's free because it's yours" all over its reading material - it's not a gift, not a blessing, not charity. And that makes *such* a big difference
If, uh, anyone has any thoughts, feel free to share.
just lewd this time
It'd be incredibly hot, though, and fit right into our D/s dynamic. Being polyam also, the idea that her other partner(s) would see it–many times–is super fucking erotic.
Plus, we intend for it to be the diameter of my penis. 😸
lewd-adjacent; mostly big fee-fees
I made a tattoo design that C. might, if we go through with it, get high on her inner thigh.
It's my symbol. I have it on an ink stamp. I sprayed it onto my rubber boots. Plus, as it stands now, it has the words "I BELONG TO" above it. It's not subtle.
The idea is freakin' me out a little. I plan to marry and spend the rest of my life with her, and the thought that she'd do this is still a big ol' nervous-maker.
We chatted about it. We'll continue to.
✅ saw Bit Brigade
✅ chatted with a guy in a Bullet Club tee
✅ chatted with one of the band members about south Georgia
✅ went to karaoke for exactly one song
✅ saw several Friday night buddies
✅ saw unexpected Austin buddy
Not giving all the detail, but it was a sorta whirlwind night with nice surprises. 😺
There we go. He liked the design, and I got it all worked out. Printing a test.
He wanted me to combine two ideas, and I think I did so pretty well. Used a bit of artistic license to give half of the idea a very small twist; I feel it fits the other half well.
The question, of course, is if he'll agree.
Admittedly, this is most likely to happen with exes.
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