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selfie, ec. boosts welcome 💕 

This will be an incredibly busy day once it gets rolling. I'm taking every moment of relaxation I can get before then.

@mastohost is having an issue with slow- and not-loading images again. Would you please investigate?

expressing emotion as a man 

Hoo buddy. I don't think I'm good for much else today. Lawn, dishes, ablutions.

The heat index was likely around 110 while I was out there. I think I did just fine.

Time to clean myself.

Anyone know if you can hire somebody to come by with a strigil & scrape perfumed oils off you? Is that maybe a spa treatment?

jesus i'm tired. Spent an hour with a push-mower, mowing about 1/4 of our lawn, from street to front corners of our house.

Had to do a combination of smart (long, continuous stretch without many obstacles, most visible portion) AND hard (in the heat of the goddamn day when no one else was home) because my more persnickety housemate is always in a quiet pissing contest that doesn't respect JUST smart.

No one can contest that I did a lot. Fuck 'em.

I'm extremely lucky these days in that both my partners respect my desire to share in the anticipation. They'll tell me they have something planned. They'll tell me whether it's big or small, cheap or expensive.

I get to be excited. I'm given the info I need to manage my expectations. It means the WORLD to me.

You're not throwing me a party at that moment. You're throwing yourself a party at which I'm the unwitting entertainment.


I've only had one surprise party thrown for me in my life,

because I routinely tell the story of how I almost stormed, furious, out of that party.

It's wrong to me. If you want to make me happy with a party, let me plan and anticipate. Let me get excited. Don't try and get my SIGNIFICANTLY less-than-energetic ass out the door on a lie of omission, then expect me to be Mr. Good Humor when I might not even be Mr. Half-A-Tank.

Still sad I haven't, and one day hoping I get to, ask Patrick Stewart how Money Supermarket I am.

I feel that my body wants a bunch of sugar.

I kinda want to indulge it, but must rise and ride to do so.


Privileged app devs; Nazi stuff 

So long as @fdroidorg has neonazis and other bad faith actors such as this person on their team, F-Droid is not a safe place for marginalized people.

This person is using the exact same bad faith talking points the Gabbers themselves have been using. They're welcoming Gab's violence into F-Droid and that means F-Droid is not a home to the millions of people in the world who live in fear of being murdered just because of who they are.

@thraeryn Mostly my problem with community is that I don't really belong to one or another, of any type. I have a few friends sure, but it's not any kind of community.

@audiodude @thraeryn For example, I avoid being lumped into the #exvangelical community because I don't want this one (negative-based) attribute to be the defining core of my identity. I'd rather be a whole person, defined by what I'm moving towards as a person.

@audiodude @thraeryn I get the draw to community, because people crave a safe circle where they can talk about this shit without judgement. But the problem with "community" around a single point of interest is that it too easily turns into a more-thing-than-thou, gatekeeping situation. With nothing else in common, it ends up being the only thing people talk about and relationships become lopsided.

I love as a choice for my life, and also, I get so incredibly tired every time I attempt to be part of "the community".

Biggest gripe: Folks who seem to make it a focal point for everything else in their lives. The ones for whom it'd be the single, giant square on their bingo card. A mountain has elements: flora, fauna, weather, geology; they're out here proclaiming "I AM A ROCK!" Uninteresting.

Anyone else have some gripes with "community" folks? Let's hear 'em!

tips for newcomers

follow, boost and fave all you like! we don't care about follow ratios and faves are private. go hog wild!

boosting your own posts is 100% ok. no shame. the TL is chronological, so there's no algorithm to fight.

please do use CWs. if in doubt, use one just to be safe.

hashtags are your friends and really the only effective way to search for posts. be sure to use them to maximize your reach.

don't be afraid to engage. dumping pictures is fine but stay and chat a bit too!

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