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expressing emotion as a man
Let yourself cry when you feel like crying.
It's not a sign that you're broken; the brokenness is the system that teaches us that crying is a failure to be strong.
Be strong enough to cry, and be strong enough to accept consolation.
It will make the world much more bearable for all of us.
(This lesson has always been a hard one for me, personally, but it's worth the effort to try and absorb. At the very least, crying is more economical than smashing everything close at hand to bits in a fit of impotent rage, so use that as rationale if it helps you justify your needs to yourself. Thanks for reading my journal.)
jesus i'm tired. Spent an hour with a push-mower, mowing about 1/4 of our lawn, from street to front corners of our house.
Had to do a combination of smart (long, continuous stretch without many obstacles, most visible portion) AND hard (in the heat of the goddamn day when no one else was home) because my more persnickety housemate is always in a quiet pissing contest that doesn't respect JUST smart.
No one can contest that I did a lot. Fuck 'em.
I'm extremely lucky these days in that both my partners respect my desire to share in the anticipation. They'll tell me they have something planned. They'll tell me whether it's big or small, cheap or expensive.
I get to be excited. I'm given the info I need to manage my expectations. It means the WORLD to me.
I've only had one surprise party thrown for me in my life,
because I routinely tell the story of how I almost stormed, furious, out of that party.
It's wrong to me. If you want to make me happy with a party, let me plan and anticipate. Let me get excited. Don't try and get my SIGNIFICANTLY less-than-energetic ass out the door on a lie of omission, then expect me to be Mr. Good Humor when I might not even be Mr. Half-A-Tank.
So long as @fdroidorg has neonazis and other bad faith actors such as this person on their team, F-Droid is not a safe place for marginalized people.
This person is using the exact same bad faith talking points the Gabbers themselves have been using. They're welcoming Gab's violence into F-Droid and that means F-Droid is not a home to the millions of people in the world who live in fear of being murdered just because of who they are.
@thraeryn Mostly my problem with community is that I don't really belong to one or another, of any type. I have a few friends sure, but it's not any kind of community.
@audiodude @thraeryn I get the draw to community, because people crave a safe circle where they can talk about this shit without judgement. But the problem with "community" around a single point of interest is that it too easily turns into a more-thing-than-thou, gatekeeping situation. With nothing else in common, it ends up being the only thing people talk about and relationships become lopsided.
Biggest gripe: Folks who seem to make it a focal point for everything else in their lives. The ones for whom it'd be the single, giant square on their bingo card. A mountain has elements: flora, fauna, weather, geology; they're out here proclaiming "I AM A ROCK!" Uninteresting.
Anyone else have some gripes with "community" folks? Let's hear 'em!
tips for newcomers
follow, boost and fave all you like! we don't care about follow ratios and faves are private. go hog wild!
boosting your own posts is 100% ok. no shame. the TL is chronological, so there's no algorithm to fight.
please do use CWs. if in doubt, use one just to be safe.
hashtags are your friends and really the only effective way to search for posts. be sure to use them to maximize your reach.
don't be afraid to engage. dumping pictures is fine but stay and chat a bit too!
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