I don't know what to do with the internet anymore. There's so much horrible shit going on right now I feel guilty for not really posting about it. But anyone who knows me knows how I feel about these things. And I don't want to have to fight constantly *or* get stuck in an echo chamber of only people who agree with me. I want to post about my own little failures and successes but it all feels so trivial in light of everything else that's going on. So forgive me if I just kind of disappear.
Need poly advice.
How do you handle your partner's other relationship issues?
Are you unconditionally supportive?
Do you have lines you draw?
What do you do if you think your partner is making bad choices?
How do you keep from getting overloaded or drained when trying to provide emotional support, especially when much of the advice you give ends up being ignored?
I don't want to control my partner. But it's so hard to keep supporting them when they keep insisting on hurting themself.
Fucking finally. After nearly a week of struggling just to get out of bed. Hello, motivation, my old friend. Nice to see you again. Time to do *all of the things*.
Nice to have my house back after a too-long period of guest-having. I could tell my cat was pleased too as he snuggled up against my belly which is something he rarely does. Time to re-gather myself and clean and put things back the way I like them.
Read a thread the other day about relationship anarchy and the importance of close, intimate friendships that really resonated with me. Given that I’ve got three people who are very important to me that I consider my wives, two of whom I have neither a romantic nor a sexual relationship with, I think maybe this best describes what I actually practice.
I'm a little sad to realize my 5 year mark with my job just came and went without ceremony. Both my actual 5 year mark, which would have been back in October, and my observed one (since I was contract-to-hire for the first 6 months my recorded start date was April 30th 2013).
I don't know why I really care. It's a decent job that pays well, does nice things for the community, and lets me stay home basically forever if I want to, which I usually do. Still. Sad.
Need moar bright tattoos. Need moar wild hair dye. I really like this flesh vessel a lot better when it's colorful.
TFW you send a few messages to a few people and nobody answers for a while and it gives you an existential crisis.
Is everyone mad at me? Did I do something wrong? Am I dead, did I die? Do I still exist? Am I certain I ever existed?
Thinking this morning about all the things I never said to the people I’ve loved. All those lost opportunities to express how much they meant to me and how they made me feel. I only hope I can learn to be more vulnerable in the future.
Little bro has been calling a lot recently as he goes through some relationship shit. Examining all the things he thought made up a successful relationship and realizing he doesn’t subscribe to most of those ideas. He says he understands me a lot better now. I’ll take that as a compliment.
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I have not been creating enough recently. How does one find time to work and clean and cook and play games and read books and make things and still sleep and maybe even sometimes talk to people?
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I really enjoy using tarot as a tool for self reflection. And I really appreciate having a deck as beautiful and meaningful to me as this WTNV deck. https://thraeryn.net/media/qDOHIe9wmiU50lfkmQ4
I did accidentally mark it nsfw though when it’s not. Oops lol
